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Dear Rain,
I have been looking at hiring a life coach for quite awhile,
but the problem is I can’t find one I connect with and can afford. I have been struggling with the goals in my
life and know I need to find help, what can I do?
Dear Reader,
Thank you for your question.
Having lived through years of not having enough to buy diapers, I do
know what it is like to want something and feel hopeless in being able to
attain it.
I remember paying for my first month of coaching and
thinking, am I crazy? I can’t afford
this kind of luxury. If that was true, why
did I pay? Because I had tried the best
I could on my own, and it wasn’t working for me. I decided that I would rather spend every last
penny on hope, than have a few hundred in the bank without it. When I made the commitment, strangely enough,
everything began to change. It was that
money exchange that changed my life.
There are two possible truths here:
1. You believe you can’t afford it, but you can.
2. You have no money, and cannot afford it.
For most people in this country, number 1 is the truth. They absolutely can afford some form of
help. Whether it is through a sliding
scale, having fewer sessions, or finding a creative solution, there is a way to
pay for the help you need. However, it
may mean giving up something else. It
may mean you must budget. Most of the
time with women, it means you must see your own worth. What we would be willing to spend on
gymnastics for our kids, we are not willing to spend on ourselves.
They deserve it, not us.
What is your daughter going to benefit more from - stretches
and jumps or a happy and powerful mom?
It is also important to know, coaching isn’t forever, unless you want it
to be. Personally, I love having a coach. I understand
the benefit of moving forward and co-creating with someone else. However, I also find somewhere between
3 months to a year, many clients are ready to take a break or fly on their
own. It is a small investment to change
your life.
I am so grateful I took that step. My clients tell me the same thing. What will it take for you to see where you can afford to move forward?
For some others, the truth is they really cannot afford a
coach because they don’t have enough money to pay the rent. Here is a secret I want to share. If you want a coach and you make it your mission
to have a coach, you will find a coach. Here
are some steps you can take to put your life back on track:
1. Grab a piece of paper and write down every skill you
have. Things like computer savvy, fast
typer, neat freak, loves kids, loves to cook, are all valid skills.
2. Out of your list of things you can do, put a star by each
one you enjoy doing.
3. Those with a star
by them are your tradable, billable and energy exchanges. Take time to write a brag about your skills
and write an ad for each one.
For instance, if you love Facebook to chat with your friends
and you understand how it works, get on Twitter and Facebook and advertise
yourself. Your brag might read: Facebook expert for hire to help you make
sense of social networking. Also looking
for coaching trade. Do that once a
day, I am sure by the end of the week, you will have coaches contacting you.
Or, if you love to keep tidy, help others by becoming an
organizer or housecleaner. Your brag
might read: Neat freak looking for an
outlet. I can help you make sense of
your clutter! Put up flyers in your
neighborhood first, (PS: eco-friendly cleaners can charge more!) and then look
up coaches in your neighborhood and ask to trade. I know most will love the cleaning help!
If you already have a busy schedule and have more than one
job, and you are not making ends meet, here
is a do-it-yourself coaching program:
- Pick up Life Makeovers
by Cheryl Richardson at your local library.
This is a step by step guide by an amazing coach who can tell you how to live a life you
will love.
- Make a journal, and begin keeping track of your daily
journey on paper. Accountability is a main key to coaching. You will have to be in charge of being accountable
for you.
- You will also want to be inspired. Sign up for my free Inspired Almost-Daily
newsletter and listen to inspirational podcasts. Keep your mind in the right place by
listening to others who are where you want to be.
Whether you work to create money or trade energy to hire a
coach, or you begin to do-it-yourself, taking the step to begin creating your
authentic journey is work. Don’t be
fooled to believe this kind of transformation comes easily. You must commit to the work. You will have to create energy to start your
journey. You have to exchange energy to
make it through successfully, as no one can do it alone.
So the question now is, what are you going to do next to create the energy to take your first step?
smiles and inspiration!
Rain
You can find out more about Rain and life coaching at her website
Copyright 2008 by Rain Fordyce